Listening

An Important interpersonal skill

Listening is an action where we will be taking in information by attending to the message from the speaker through verbal and non-verbal medium

Listening is a great skill and much needed one when we are willing to develop healthy interpersonal relationships, On a daily basis many people trust us and share a lot of information to us and it is very much important to be aware of the listening types if we choose to be supportive to the person sharing the information.Majority of the roles taken by the listener can be divided into 5 ways

1) Advising and Moralizing

Ex: When speaker says “ I feel guilty about missing today’s deadline”

A listener in this role responds....
“Yeah, u should feel that as what u did is totally not acceptable and because of people like you many works will not complete on time “

2) Analyzing and interpreting

Ex: “ ok... the reason why you are feeling guilty is because you believe missing the deadline is wrong and as you think you did wrong you feel bad about it “

3) Questioning and probing

Ex : “ Oh, when is the deadline ?”
“ why do feel that way?”
“ Is your manager going to be angry ?”

4) Supporting and comforting
“ hmm... , things like this happens all the time and night is darkest before a bright day so stick around budy ...good days are waiting”

5) Understanding and paraphrasing

“ oh...hmmm I understand that u feel guilty that you missed the deadline which u feel is more important ... “


Each type of listening has to be used based on the speakers need and situation ....
which role to be taken can be learned through experience and asking ourselves what type of listener you want at that moment and being supportive ....

Alternate Reality

On this special morning I sense a cool breeze grazing over my skin, sun is shining and it is hard for anyone to ignore its presence. One can’t help but to appreciate the beautiful view of sun fleeing out of the mountains clearing the darkness left by the night, trees are shaking their head in response to the wake up call from the breeze.

I am driving in my car breaking the limitations of space and time with a speed that classical physics fail to explain.From the beginning of this journey, I have this feeling that there is something special about this journey.
In a split moment I felt a throb of energy bursting my heart and I had this wonderful ecstatic feeling which pulled my attention to other side of the road where, I saw a beautiful girl whose charm is dominating the sun behind her. She was coming towards me with a green dress on a red scooty.
Suddenly my leg became too heavy and I couldn't take it out of the accelerator, my hand started itching heavily and without my conscious effort my steering moved towards her scooty as if my car is being pulled by the gravity of her presence.
I found her beauty so accurately that I lost her position(Heisenberg's principle :) ),In an attempt to save her I hit a pole and my car turned upside down swinging in the air, in a moment my head hit the airbag.
            And with a sudden jerk I wake up to find my cousin sister hitting my face with a pillow,my cousin brother sitting on my leg making it hard to move and my head under newly bought air conditioner and an ant crawling on my hand.
But I am astonished to see a girl with a green dress carrying a coffee cup.....(to be continued)